How Do You Say Goodbye to Your Child Before You Leave? The Impact of a Simple Sentence on Child Psychology

“Sweetheart, Daddy is going to work to earn money to buy you a big car!” “Sweetheart, bye-bye, Mommy is going to work to earn money to buy you new clothes!” “Goodbye, my dear grandson, Grandma is goin

“Sweetheart, Daddy is going to work to earn money to buy you a big car!”

“Sweetheart, bye-bye, Mommy is going to work to earn money to buy you new clothes!”

“Goodbye, my dear grandson, Grandma is going to buy groceries and make fish for our baby.”

Do these phrases often come up when parents say goodbye to their children?

In this seemingly warm daily routine, there is a hidden trap in the Chinese way of saying goodbye:

The more we use “earning money for you to spend” as a pacifier, the more children automatically translate “being loved” into “being fed”.You think you are expressing love, but in fact, you are quietly giving your child a pass that says “the world revolves around me”.

What’s more heartbreaking is that many parents don’t realize this is a pitfall: Can a single sentence really lead to such serious consequences? Is it not a big deal or an alarmist statement?

A parent once said, “My child, at the age of 5, would say, ‘Mom, work overtime, then you can buy me Lego.’ I thought he was being sensible at the time.”