When it comes to children’s education, learning-oriented parents are all trying to do this well!

The other day, I saw a news report:Hang zhou, a hospital's cardiology department admitted a 35-year-old young woman who was so frustrat

Among people with depression,50% are students.77% and 69% of student patients are prone to depression ininterpersonal and family relationships.63% of student patients feel strict/control, neglect/lack of care, and conflict/domestic violence at home.

(Data from the “2022 National Depression Blue Book”)

It’s the “relationship” that’s the problem

As a BCBA( Board Certified Behavior Analyst), from the latest developments in behavioral theory – Relational Frame Theory, it’s not so much that a person “has a problem”, but rather thattheir relationship with the surrounding environment has a problem.

“Your nine bosses take turns nagging in your ear every day – why is your work efficiency so low, why is your performance always not up to par, are you stupid or something, you can only sweep the streets and go to the assembly line in the future,if you don’t improve your performance, your life is over!”

“You go to this classevery monththere will be an assessment, sometimes evenevery weekthere is an assessment,every three yearsthere is a major elimination.”

“When you get home, you are also criticized by your family, and you are watched all the timenot allowed to have any slacking behavior…”

At the age of 8, I brought back a test paper with 95 points waiting for praise, and the first thing my parents asked was “Where did the 5 points you lost go?”