What happened to the children who were raised frugally?

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There is a segment like this: Mai Lin is very frugal. She has a daughter and a son, and often the older one’s clothes are passed down to the younger one. So, it’s common for the younger brother to wear clothes that his sister can no longer wear. Even the Hanfu, which was bought by Li Xingliang, that the daughter really liked and cost only a few tens of yuan, was returned by Mai Lin on the grounds that it fit perfectly, children grow up quickly, and they won’t be able to wear it for a few days.

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So, here comes the question,should children be raised in poverty or wealth? Will raising in poverty make children feel inferior? Or will raising in wealth make children have no concept of money, causing them to squander money when they grow up or even become neet?

On the surface, Mai Lin and Li Xingliang’s family has a decent income and can easily fulfill the children’s wish to buy a Hanfu for a few tens of yuan. But the mother, Mai Lin, still chooses to refuse, because in her view, this is indeed a “low cost-performance ratio” unreasonable demand, and should not be indulged.

Ignoring the child’s desire to try/experience new things, the child may feel that their feelings (like or dislike) are not important, and the parents’ principles are the most important. Over time, this will affect the child’s exploration of interests and even affect their creative nature. This is also a key point that many parents overlook:When we focus too much on the cost-performance ratio of goods, it is easy to overlook the important role they play in the growth process of children.

This seemingly reasonable parenting method actually sows the seeds of self-doubt in the child’s heart.

Interest is the spark of talent. For curious children,how their enthusiasm for exploring the unknown is responded to will profoundly affect the shaping of their personality. Especially when parents directly refuse the child’s needs for economic reasons, the child will often receive the following negative implications:

First Trauma: Low Sense of Deserving